A few years ago I wrote about the stress I went through to go hear the Dalai Lama speak at Exhibition Stadium in Toronto. I had a fight with my husband about it, I missed my volleyball team’s playoffs, and the driving conditions that day were miserable. I never regretted my decision. The key thing I remember from his talk was, “Everyone wants to have a happy life.”

That seems like an easy statement to agree with and a simple thing to achieve. And yet, billions are spent yearly on self-help books and programs. If you’re lucky enough to have gained a bit of wisdom over the years, you know that the quest for a happy life (however you define that) does not lie in your wallet, your relationship, or your garage. So much of it is in your head. 

A recent article in The Walrus reminded readers of two phrases, one in the Declaration of Independence and the other in the Canadian Constitution Act, 1867. The American dream is articulated as “life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.” Canadians ask for “peace, order, and good government.”

Take a moment to think about these distinctions. If you were required to choose right now, which statement has the stronger appeal? Which statement would you fight to defend?

I’m clear-headed on this one. If you enjoy peace, order, and good government, you are at liberty to pursue happiness in your life. 

In his talk, the Dalai Lama said that he had fully expected to lead a nice, quiet life as a monk, “And then all this stuff happened.” Those were his words as I remember them. Perhaps he didn’t say “stuff,” but you understand the meaning.

He didn’t have the life he had expected, but I suspect, having witnessed his serenity, that his mind enjoys the benefit of peace, order, and good government.

Keep your joy.

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